From The Desk Of Karina Lane
Hey Wonder Woman,
If you’ve got a baby due (or just had one), chances are you’re feeling a little unsure about motherhood.
You'd be in the same boat as many, many other mums-to-be.
Stressed about whether you’ll be able to settle your crying baby...
Worried about coping with sleep deprivation (and helping your baby sleep better)...
Sick of all the conflicting information and unwelcome advice...
Then this letter may be the most important one you read this year...
Because early motherhood is an amazing time – this is when you get to meet your newborn and find your motherhood feet.
It’s the start of a brand new adventure – probably the most meaningful one you’ll ever go on.
Becoming a mum is the most amazing experience and will add richness and delight to your world in ways you never thought possible.
As wonderful as this time is, it can also be confusing and stressful...
And downright emotional!
Not only have you got a new baby to learn to care for (who needs you around the clock), but you also need to recover from the birth...
Deal with your roller coaster hormones, cope with broken sleep...
And come to grips with your new role in life.
Add to this the information overload that comes with New Mum territory...
Which just makes everything So Much Harder.
Motherhood can be full of advice that is conflicting, outdated and judgmental.
Not to mention unwelcome and unhelpful!
New mums are most vulnerable to this, which can damage your confidence and impact on your relationship with your baby.
And this crazy-making part of it can take the magic out of getting to know your new baby and adjusting to the most important role of your life.
This isn't how motherhood should be.
Having gone through four babies myself, I know NOW how precious those first few weeks with a newborn can be.
And I also get how completely overwhelming the whole thing can become.
As a postnatal professional, I help new mums all the time, and let me tell you, their struggles are pretty much always based around the same themes:
* Overwhelm – about how intense this period truly is - no one prepared them!
* Confusion – with trying to apply all the information they receive - way too much, and all of it conflicts!
* Despair – feeling down on themselves because they didn’t land on their feet like they thought they would
* Disappointment – at how motherhood has turned out - they thought it would be more enjoyable
I've gone from new mum to new mum, often hearing the same story in a different home.
‘No one told me how hard breastfeeding would be.’
‘Why do they focus so much on the birth? I couldn’t even change a nappy when I brought my baby home!’
‘Labour was nothing compared to the relentlessness of this (caring for an unsettled newborn)’
'I wasn't prepared for how much it would hurt to hear my baby cry!'
And it breaks my heart over and over again, because these mums shouldn’t have to struggle.
They're let down from the start – not supported with the right information around breastfeeding, settling their baby or the ‘sleep habits to avoid’.
So instead of hearing evidenced-based, gentle advice...
...And being encouraged to trust their instincts and enjoy their babies...
These poor mums were handed out incorrect and unhelpful information.
Some mums I've met tell me they stopped at one child because their first experience put them off ever going through it again :(
I decided that I couldn’t sit back and watch this happen any longer.
I had to do something to change early motherhood for the better.
So for months I’ve been working on an online program that I know can help new mums overcome stress and truly enjoy their motherhood experience.
See, it’s really not that hard.
I’ve learnt over the years (sadly my youngest babies are now five *sob*) that motherhood gets overly complicated and incredibly noisy...
When it really doesn't need to be.
The truth is, newborns are simple creatures and if we just pared back all the ridiculous advice...
And stuck to what we know (according to research) about new babies...
Early motherhood could be a time of joy, delight and magic...
Instead of stress, confusion and overwhelm.